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The Problem Isn’t Zoom Fatigue — It’s Mourning Life as We Knew It
There’s an unspoken sadness whenever we join a video call
Like so many families, mine is trying to keep things together during the pandemic by scheduling Zoom time. We Zoom to celebrate birthdays and holidays, catch up, and pass the time by playing games and solving puzzles. This is the new normal of socially distancing together.
Unfortunately, I’ve started experiencing what’s come to be known as “Zoom burnout,” or sheer exhaustion after so many video chats. Don’t get me wrong: A locked-down world without video calls would be significantly worse — more socially isolating and economically devastating. But this doesn’t change the fact that telepresence is contributing to my overall weariness, and maybe yours, too.
People are struggling to politely opt out, to honor their feelings of burnout without upsetting the people they care about. After all, it’s hard to say you’re unavailable and can’t make an online appearance during a quarantine.
What makes the situation especially fraught is that we’ve accepted the wrong explanation of the problem. The issue isn’t just about technological mediation — all the differences between a video call and in-person communication. Our “burnout” is largely due to the depressing thoughts the…
